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How Ego can Ruin Relationships

June 8, 2017

Do you know what spoils the possibility of most relationships starting off?

It is simply because of Ego

Everybody has an ego. It is that self-centered part of us, that is also necessary for survival. The Ego can be useful in handling certain people or difficult situations. The problems start when the ego gets out of control and begins to consume behaviors, attitudes, and relationships.

A typical situation is this:

You are hanging out with a woman you’ve been out with a couple of times. You enjoy each others company, and you know it. You’re really having a good time, and then suddenly one of you gets scared – which always happens. One person gets scared or even both of you.

So all of a sudden, she doesn’t text you back right away, or she doesn’t call like before. And what do you do?

Your ego works by protecting yourself, and you just say to yourself, forget this – it’s not going to work out.

In reality, it is your ego protecting you from becoming vulnerable.

Then you rationalize to yourself and immerse yourself in work or whatever you do. That is Your ego just trying to protect you the entire time.

But you see, Life might just accept one more phone call. Call that person out and simply say, “Hey there, what’s going on? I don’t understand it. We were having a good time, and then you suddenly blanked out. What’s going on?”

By calling somebody out, you’re probably going to get an answer that will be far different than you ever expected. Maybe she just needed that little nudge.

Women like to feel secure. Probably she got a bit scared and insecure, and when a woman is scared, She just wants to be protected by her man.

A genuine man is going to make her feel secure and safe. That’s what women crave – that feeling of protection and security. Women are natural nesters. They look at you as a potential father or husband, and they want to feel very safe with you.

And by you saying, damn it, and just walking away, you demonstrated to her that the little doubt she had about you was 100% accurate. Just because you had to protect your ego and your fear of vulnerability, You wanted to save face.

And just think about it, who could you be saving face from? Her friends if she talks to them or your friends? So If you call her and just ask her what’s up, she’s going to run to her friends and say: “Collins called, and he wants to know what’s up with me. What should I do?” If her friends see that she likes you, they will be encouraging her to call you.

So guess what? Your ego just guarded you against nothing.

Always remember that you are not just your ego except you decide to give up control of yourself to it. It is simply a part of you. You are a spiritual creature with a soul and much more than your ego. You have a heart, which has the capability to love, care, understand, accept, and feel kindness.

Secondly, don’t forget that your heart takes a back seat when your ego is in charge. Learn to live your life from your heart instead of your mind. It might be Difficult, yes, but absolutely necessary for happiness.

Eight causes of failed relationships

May 18, 2017

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Do you have problems in your relationship? Is your relationship spiraling downwards? Keeping a healthy relationship isn’t easy, and most couples contend with a few bumps along the road to a lasting relationship. These could, if not spotted on time lead the relationship towards the wrong path heading to a divorce or break-up. It is important to identify these relationship killers ahead of time to avoid further damage. Here are some reasons why relationships fail, and you’ll have a better chance of rescuing your troubled relationship once these causes are recognized on time.

Lack of communication.

Communication is always an important factor in a relationship; it is necessary for couples to have a regular and strong communication. When there is poor or lack of communication, Couples tend to drift apart causing the start of many other problems. Arguments and Misunderstandings are often the results of not communicating with your spouse or partner.

Not supportive of each other’s ambitions, goals, and careers.

When couples in a relationship have different ambitions and goals and cannot support or compromise each other, the relationship tends to suffer in the end. Naturally, two people tend to have different career goals and objectives but why not support each other to make the relationship work and avoid strain. There are couples who lead a strong and happy relationship and are successful in their careers at the same time.

Being unfriendly with your partner’s friends and family.

Conflict with the people dearest to your partner or spouse is one of the reasons why relationships fail. Let’s be realistic here, you and your partner come from different families and perhaps have a few close friends, so the world doesn’t revolve around you two alone. Not getting along with people closest to your partner will most likely put a strain on your relationship. Why not make an effort to get along with them in other to have a long-lasting relationship plus happier holidays in family gatherings.

Financial issues.

Money issues are one of the causes of failed relationships. Without proper planning, money problems can be the end of a relationship. The stress caused by financial struggles can bring about a partner that is irrational, irritable, and hostile and cold towards their spouse or partner and these behaviors can slowly end a relationship. Always be honest from the start about your financial status, discuss each other’s spending habits, money expenses, and financial issue. With open-minded communication, compromise and strategies about money, a financially challenged couple can save their marriage.

Infidelity.

Maintaining a healthy relationship between two people is hard enough but adding cheating to it is definitely the icing on the cake that can instantly kill a relationship. Infidelity is the number one relationship destroyer and some relationships won’t be able to go past this. The feeling of being betrayed is not easy to handle, and so the betrayed spouse or partner often leave the relationship. There are couples who survived infidelity and made the relationship work again, but if you want a long-lasting relationship, it is best not to commit infidelity in the first place.

Disgusting habits and behaviors

Love is not an excuse to put up with disgusting habits and behaviors and although loving somebody includes being tolerant of all his or her flaws, let’s face it, there are habits that can become frustrating over time and can drive your partner to wake up one day and simply take a walk. Simple things like not making the bed, covering the toothpaste, leaving soiled laundry everywhere or dirty socks and shoes around the house can aggravate situations if the relationship is not going well and eventually put an end to it. Behaviors like fighting in public, Nagging, humiliating your partner, unreasonable jealousy, cursing when arguing, keeping grudges, hitting your partner or spouse when you are angry, evading discussions about the issues in your relationship, lying or being dishonest are some of the unhealthy behaviors that can damage a relationship leading to breakups or divorce. Being in a relationship should help couples to become a better version of them, not the opposite.

Boring routine.

The excitement in a relationship could die when you become too complacent or comfortable with each other, and everything becomes more of a routine than an act of love. The fire slowly extinguishes, and You become more like friends or siblings than lovers. Stop the routine and spice up your relationship, create new and exciting memories through vacations or regular dates. Rediscover what made you two fall in love and start all over to fall in love again.

Lack of intimacy and sex.

Couples end up too busy or stressed for sex or intimacy because of life’s challenges which is not good in a relationship. Couples need to connect emotionally, intimately and physically and this is done through sex. Couples tend to have less sex through the years. This should be prevented from happening. When couples cease having sex, they tend to get detached and disconnected from each other, and they become vulnerable to infidelity. It is best for couples to sustain an active sex life to keep the intimacy and relationship exciting and alive.

Male Sex Enhancement Drugs – Potential Dangers of Sex Pills to the Human Body

May 14, 2017

Are you one of those that still rely onmale sex enhancement drugs to last longer or perform better in bed during sexual intercourse? When the commonly known Viagra which was formerly known as the wonder drug Sildenafil was released for use in the market in 1998, it was no surprise it was seen as heaven sent by many men as a form of release for their erectile dysfunction needs. The achievement of over a billion dollar in sales by the drug since it went public is an indication of its acceptance worldwide. Although this pill has caused quite a stir worldwide, do you know that without prior medical consultation, depending on various drugs/pill to perform better in bed could also lead a dangerous problem in the body?

Erectile dysfunction is known as a state in which the arteries of the penis get so constrained to the point that it does not allow blood to enter its veins, and This, unfortunately, leads to a limp penis. Thus, in men, erectile dysfunction is like a disease. Sildenafil was then produced because of its nitric oxide content which unwinds the penis’ smooth muscle thereby letting blood flow bringing about an erection. If this is the only effect in some men, then they should count themselves so lucky. But in most cases, side effects of several sexual enhancement drug cause, nasal congestion, headache dyspepsia, peripheral vision, photophobia, heart attack and even cyanopsia in some men.

Few men admit to having that feeling of doubt each time they pop a Viagra. Because of this, this is the perfect time to inform men that there is a very effective alternative natural solution available to solve impotence needs without the use of sildenafil especially for those that still rely on male sex enhancement drugs in the market. The awesome thing about it is that one does not encounter any risk at all, These are just sets of tested and proven sexual exercises which will permanently solve their erectile dysfunction problems. If it is possible to get rid of your sexual problem naturally, is it then necessary to keep risking your health on sexual enhancement pills to cure impotence simply because you want to recover your confidence and performance in bed?

Top Ten secrets to a happy marriage.

May 10, 2017

The concept of Marriage has evolved over the years when it was sacrosanct and deemed a necessity to now when it’s simply a choice. Marriage as an institution is still important, but the with the high rate of presently successful marriages with children are now an exception and not the norm. This is why I have compiled the top secrets towards ensuring a successful marriage.

1. Trust

Trust is very important to ahappy marriage, when there is trust between couples then the marriage is built on solid rock. Couples need to protect their marriages from any seed of doubt creeping in to destroy the bond of that family.

2. Think Before talking

Words are very powerful and successful couples know that when angry it’s better to think before talking or count to ten before talking to avoid voicing out words you would later regret.

3. Always Treat your spouse better than you treat anyone else.

People tend to treat partner worse than strangers probably because of the familiarity that comes with marriage. Always respect your partner and treat her better.

4. Encourage each other’s dreams and goals.

This is extremely important, in a successful marriage the couple is happy with each other’s success and encourages one another to reach their goals.

5. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side

Always remember this; when you feel like giving up or starting all over again, remember that all marriages face challenges, and the next one might be the same. This is what successful couples realize and work hard in making their relationships work.

6. Compliment your spouse daily.

Always give a great compliment to your spouse each day to make them feel good.

7. Don’t complain about your spouse to your family and friends

It’s better to talk with a professional counselor about your marriage than to your family and friends as your family and friends do not easily forget the complaint you made even when you are your spouse are past it.

8. be faithful

This is very important as unfaithfulness has caused a lot of divorce and broken homes if you are in love with someone outside your spouse, be honest about it and end the marriage first.

9. Forgive each other

Everyone makes mistakes even you, so you must be able to forgive each other’s mistakes and move on, remember the next time it might be you that needs forgiveness from your spouse.

10. Don’t give up.

Marriage is a long journey; there will be always good and bad times, appreciate the good, forget the bad and move on. It will increase the love and connection you feel towards your partner.

Signs that you might be in love

May 5, 2017

A special time inour lives is when we fall in love. Oh, that feeling of joy, ecstasy, and happiness when you are with that special person. Finding that special person out of the millions of people in the world is insane, so it is natural to be excited when we are with that person who makes us happy.

We also hope they feel the same way we do, but most times we do not realize we are in love so these are some of the helpful signs that might show that you or your partner is in love even if you have not heard those ‘’three special words” from him.

1. Hanging out together often

Do you enjoy spending a lot of time together with that person? This attitude shows how much you enjoy his company plus you don’t want it to end. Time waltzes by without you knowing.

2. You would go extra lengths for him

When you are willing to go that extra mile to make sacrifices just to keep him happy, then you are in love. You can’t bear to see him sad or angry because all you want is to see that beaming smile on their face. You dress attractively on a date with him to impress him; you are conscious about how you look and smell, you try to make an extra effort in your appearance.

3. You imagine the future with him.

Dreaming up imaginative plans about the future with that person is another sign you should take note.

When you start planning your first home together in your mind, the kids you are going to have, traveling to that beautiful island and other creating other beautiful memories in your mind just understand that all these are perfectly normal and signs that you are falling in love.

4. Obsession and jealousy over the person

When you feel a bit of jealousy and obsession over your beloved, then you might be in love. While excess obsession isn’t healthy and shouldn’t be encouraged in any relationship, a little bit of jealousy towards your partner might be a clear sign of falling in love

5. When you are emotionally disturbed

Are you emotionally affected by some of his actions? Even a little argument that might not be serious has the potential of disturbing you emotionally and can affect your daily activities. Do you constantly think of him and are you worried about anything that threatens to destroy your relationship?

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